So apparently when I don't answer my phone or reply to texts, the next logical thing for the ex to do is to show up on my front door step. Same old same old "Please take me back" and "I gave up everything for you, the least you can do is give me one more chance" bullshit. One new tidbit y'all might find interesting.... he admitted that he had lied when he left the voice mail and the text saying that he had cut himself, and said that the follow up messages about the hospital, and the bandage he'd been wearing on his arm were just because I'd sent the cops out to his house and he thought he had to prove that he really had tried to kill himself. That is even more psycho than texting your ex mid-suicide. Blech.

There was a notice in the local paper that someone from the neigboring county had been arrested for stealing donations meant for the ex-job. While it was neither the ex-boss nor any name I recognized, the person did live in the neighboring county where she lives. I checked with the current management at the ex-job, and the police are looking into whether or not this person was connected with the ex-boss. They also checked the other donation sites... and apparently this person had emptied a good number of them before getting caught :-( Whether or not this individual is connected to the ex-boss, this is simply reprehensible... especially given how much shit the ex-job has been through in the past year!

So as y’all know, I’d been in contact with my ex. This was in part because I do think that being in touch with some of my exes actually helped me to get over them. Your exes treat you differently when they’re your ex, and has at least helped *me* put things into perspective in the past. Meanwhile, it was obviously not helping the ex, since he continued with his begging/pleading/crying routine every time we spoke. He also continued calling me all the time, and then started showing up at my house.

Slight interlude: Something I hate more than anything else is people who call and call and call. I have run across several of folks like this in my life, and I just don’t get it. If I call a friend and they don’t answer, I leave a message. If I don’t hear back within a certain amount of time (which, depending on how well I know the person and how urgent it is… but this time can range from a day to as week) I will call back and either talk to them or leave another message. And unless it’s a close family member or someone that I’m worried might’ve had an accident or something, that’s it. At that point, I stop calling. Then there are people who call over and over and over. If I don’t answer, it’s because I can’t talk to you, or because I don’t want to talk to you. This should be obvious! Now, I have a bit of a phone phobia to begin with, and to be honest, this whole calling over and over and over thing really freaks me out, even when it is done by someone annoying but innocuous. When it’s the crazy ex, it’s really disturbing.

Yesterday I was in class from early morning to mid afternoon. He knew that it was my first day of class. I had my phone set to vibrate (luckily, my vibrate setting is incredibly quiet – I can’t hear is at all when it’s in my pocket) – and he called and texted me over and over non-stop all day! The initial message was something like, “Please call me back, I have something really important to ask you.” Each successive message got crazier and crazier, ie “Please call me back. Why are you doing this to me? Please stop ignoring me. I just need to ask you something.” When I finally got out of my last class and went home, I was so pissed off, that I decided this was it – I was going to do like so many of you have advised and just cut off contact with him completely. So when he called again, I answered, chewed him out for calling me all day, and informed him that I wasn’t going to continue communicating with him, and told him that if he continued to call/text/visit I would get a restraining order against him. I then hung up and sent him a text message saying the same thing. This way if I do have to get a RO, there will be proof that I have indeed told him to stop doing these things.

And then I stopped responding. He called over and over and over and texted over and over and over…. Finally, when my phone hadn’t rung in about 30 minutes, I thought I would at least go through and delete his obnoxious texts and voicemails, so that I wouldn’t have to deal with them when I received texts/vms from people that I actually want to hear from. Well, his messages were all “I’m going to kill myself if you don’t talk to me” and finally one (both a text and a vm) that said “I’ve cut myself and am bleeding all over the place. I hope you’re happy.” To be honest, I didn’t care at all… except that knowing his mother and her crazy obsession with cockamamie lawsuits, I figured if he really did die, and she discovered that he’d messaged me in the process, she would try and sue me. So, I called 911.

I made sure the dispatcher knew that he was my ex, and had been threatening to kill himself as a means of getting me to call him. I told her I had no idea if he’d actually done anything or if he was just trying to get me to call him. She sent both the police and EMS. (I have to admit that the thought of having the police show up at the ex-boss’s house thoroughly amuses me. Also, why have they not yet arrested her? Grrrrr.)

Anyway, later in the evening (and this morning, too) I received several texts and vms from him. “I’m in the hospital.” “I just got out of the hospital” “I’m so sorry” “I’m not mad at you for sending the police to my house” “Please call me” “Please call me” “Please call me” Blah. Needless to say, I did not answer, and I am not going to do so.

I know I haven't updated in a long time, but I figure some of you might be interested in what's been going on with the now ex-boyfriend and the continuing drama of the ex-boss.

Ex-boyfriend: I do talk to him now. He calls at least once a day, either "just to talk" or to try and beg me to take him back. I'm always very firm with my saying no to him... and to be honest, it's easier to deal with that than with him calling non-stop all day and night.

Ex-boss: Not too much new has come out in the investigation... just more thefts of funds uncovered. At this point, that no longer shocks or surprises me. Plus, they've uncovered that an elderly donor had been making monthly donations (she thought) to the ex-job - but the ex-boss had told her that checks needed to be made out in her (the ex-boss's) name! That's a bit sickening. Also, for those of you who aren't my facebook friend, she recently figured a way to circumvent my facebook block and leave a bunch of nasty comments for me. She's been re-blocked by the way. She has also started posting crap about the ex-job on the local online forum again, talking about how terrible they are....

And that's pretty much it! :-)

I didn't hear from the now EX-boyfriend at all yesterday. Two phone calls and one text so far today. I'm not replying.

Hahahaha. The Spy just called with more news. The ex-boss's daughter is now back on probation. Apparently she had originally had to do 60 hours of community service (all of which she "did" at the ex-job while receiving her salary) - now she has to do something like double that, starting from scratch, and her probation officer will be monitoring where and how well she does her service quite closely this time around!

So here's the story you've been waiting for. I'm telling you, the previous post is more interesting! I decided to kick the now EX boyfriend out as soon as I got home from taking my last final exam yesterday. I literally told him the instant I came in the front door. Something that had never occurred to me before (mainly because he was usually drinking) was that every time I had tried to dump him before, he had been drunk. This was the first time I ever tried when he was stone cold sober. He went through the same routine that he had done the previous times (crying, begging, wanting to know what he had done wrong, promising to change, etc, etc) although I think since he was sober, what *I* was saying ("I don't love you and I want you to move out") actually got through to him somewhat. After about an hour of repeating myself over and over, he finally started packing. He also called his mom. You know, the psychotic ex-boss, to ask if her husband (his step-dad) could come and help him transport his ridiculous $1000 TV (you know, the one he bought with the one bit of money he earned this summer instead of helping me pay my bills). I was actually the most worried that the ex-boss would show up, but only her husband came. They loaded everything up and were gone. He did try a couple more times to get me to let him stay, and even tried to get me to agree to being separated but still dating (to which I said no). All in all, it seemed pretty easy, which really surprised me, considering how he had always just not listened to me and wore me down with hours of arguing before. That was when I realized that he had always been drunk before and this time he wasn't. What a difference that made!

Anyway, even though he did give me his keys back before he left, I went ahead and had the locks changed (who knows - he might've made himself a copy, or his psycho mom might have made herself a copy one day when he was passed out drunk at her house), so now I have all new locks.

Last night around 8pm he began calling me. He literally dialed my number over and over for an hour and a half, and left me a total of 8 messages, all begging me to call him and talk to him and all telling me how depressed he was. I did not call him back. His last message was that he would stop calling me, but if I had any morality in me at all, I would at least call him back the next day. Being moral-free is fine with me, apparently, because I did not call him, and don't intend to do so.