I haven’t posted an update on the ex-boss in ages, mainly due to the fact that I’ve had nothing whatsoever to report. As far as I can tell, this is mainly due to the fact that there have been no developments; however, the following information was just relayed to me by the Spy.

You may remember that the ex-boss “runs” her own “non-profit charity” (I use those words rather loosely, given that she’s a flim-flam artist) which is similar in nature to the ex-job from which she was fired back in September 2009. A similar – although legitimate – charity in a northern state had donated several thousand dollars to the ex-boss’s “charity” to be used for a specific purpose. The northern charity then rented a u-haul type truck, packed it full of supplies to be donated to the ex-boss’s charity, then drove all the way to the southern state in which the ex-boss and her charity are located. As the northern charity is in the process of filming a promotional documentary, they brought along video cameras.

Now, the ex-boss always described her organization as having “a state of the art facility” – although I have seen it with my own eyes, and I find it simply mind-boggling that it somehow manages to pass inspections by the overseeing state agency, as the conditions are pretty disgusting. Anyway, imagine the shock when the people from the northern charity arrived to find that the “state of the art facility” to be, in fact, the hell pit that I remember. Additionally, there were several gross violations of the organizations mandate (which I can’t elaborate on here without giving way the nature of the ex-boss’s “charity”).

Not surprisingly, the northern folks were disgusted and enraged by what they found, and used their cameras to film as much as possible. Equally not too surprising (if you know the ex-boss) was the fact that she was furious at the presence of cameras on her property. Additionally, the ex-boss refused to answer questions regarding the visible gross violations and refused to answer questions regarding the money which the northern charity had donated for a specific purpose. (Had that money been used as claimed, they would have been able to see evidence of this; they saw no signs that it had been used for the claimed specific purpose.)

While the northern folks were trying to elicit information about how their donations had been spent, this somehow triggered an argument between the ex-boss and her daughter, which devolved into a fist-fight… all of which was captured on video by the northerners!! The ex-boss (true to form) told them that if they showed the video to anyone she would “sue them for slander and libel” – hah.

The northern folks, feeling that they’d been thoroughly swindled, ran a google search and discovered that the ex-boss had been fired from the ex-job and had been accused of ripping them off for tens of thousands of dollars… and they called the ex-job’s current director to vent and compare notes. This is, of course, how the Spy got the information which he then relayed to me. God how I would love to see the video footage. And can someone please, please arrest these people already??

I had my interview today with the detective who is investigating both the ex-boss and the recent theft of a piece of equipment from my mom. Now, the prime suspects in this theft (to me and my mom at any rate) are the ex-boyfriend and the ex-boss. The detective used the theft as an excuse to go out and visit the ex-boss, ostensibly to see if the ex-boyfriend was around (no sign of the stolen equipment, but she didn't have a warrant, so she couldn't poke around). Anyhow, the ex-boss told the detective that the ex-boyfriend wasn't there because he was in a southern state visiting his sister... keep in mind that just a few weeks ago she sent a letter to the court stating that he had moved PERMANENTLY to a northern state, and was there working. This letter is the reason why the restraining order wasn't issued. And of course there's the fact that a friend and former coworker saw the ex-boyfriend here in town a little more than a week ago. Now because the letter that the ex-boss wrote wasn't “under oath” she can't be charged with perjury, but she can be charged with contempt of court... which I guess will just be thrown in with all the other charges that are probably going to be brought against her. Not that this does anything to get me my restraining order, but it's something.

The most astounding thing that I learned today? Now I knew that the ex-boss had a criminal record, because she bragged about it, although she never told anyone what it was that she'd been charged with. Well, apparently she'd been charged with a variety of small things. And oh yeah, HOMICIDE. That's right, the ex-boss stood trial for fucking MURDER. She was acquitted, but apparently due to some kind of evidentiary problem. That's right ladies and gentleman, she got off on a technicality. She was, however, convicted on a felony firearms charge from this whole murder thing. So yeah, the person who has been threatening me and my mother and our animals has killed someone. Actually killed someone. Fuck me. The detective just told me the bare bones of the case... it is driving me crazy that I can't find any details via google. I'm guessing she must have been tried under another name or something. (She's been married three times and I only know two of those names, and then there's her maiden name which I don't know.)

(Apparently the ex-boss was also dismissed from a previous employer – one she always claims she retired from, even though she is way too young to have retired from anywhere – due to a sexual harassment claim from a subordinate, although compared to MURDER that kinda pales into insignificance. Also: ew. Even if I were a horny guy: ew. She is so not attractive.)

Other than that, the interview wasn't too astounding. I'd already learned from my friend that the Board hadn't exactly been forthcoming with evidence, so I wasn't too surprised when she showed me the tiny amount of evidence that they had given her. In fact, I think that what I was able to give her today was more damning than the whole entire amount of things the Board had given her! Anyway, she is going to face several charges of theft (including felony counts) and some other charges as well. The whole thing with the ex-boss's daughter claiming she was doing community service at the ex-job while receiving her salary and while not actually working... well, they are both going to get in serious trouble for that. I also gave the detective copies of all the crazy shit that the ex-boss and her daughter had written about me on facebook. I'm not sure that it's going to come of anything, but she definitely took it a lot more seriously than the police officer to whom I'd show them previously. Of course, she's seen their rap sheets, and he hadn't!

One thing that I found interesting – there is a woman who is no longer officially on the Board, although she is present at every single meeting the Board calls her a “consultant.” This woman was responsible for the allowing the ex-boss's predecessor to get out of control (leading to a very different type of scandal long before I arrived) and she is responsible for the hiring of both the ex-boss and her daughter. She is also the person who swore at the Board meeting that she had no knowledge of the credit card the ex-boss had opened... and who later told the detective that she couldn't actually swear in court that she hadn't okayed the credit card because she didn't really remember... Anyway, from the questions I was asked about her, it became clear that the Sheriff's department is looking into the "consultant" as well. I am thrilled by this, as I cannot stand this woman. Also, this “consultant” was supposed to be the liaison between the Board and the Sheriff's Department... and meanwhile most of the evidence that was supposed to have been passed on to the Sheriff's Department hadn't been. You know, like my 25+ page statement, copies of things the ex-boss had written incriminating herself, etc. Luckily, I was able to provide these things to the detective. Definitely food for thought. I also have a feeling from the questions (and the evidence I was shown) that the treasurer on the Board is under investigation... as she signed two large checks, one to the ex-boss and one to the ex-boss's husband, and can't provide a decent explanation as to what those checks were for. In the treasurer's defense, I don't think she's all that bright, and she probably believed whatever BS the ex-boss told her as to why the check needed to be signed.

After leaving the Sheriff's department, I had an appointment at the V business, where one of the Board members works. I asked him if he'd heard about the murder, and he said he had only learned of it two days ago. I asked him why the Board had talked at their meetings about having so much evidence against the ex-boss, and yet the Sheriff's department hadn't received much of anything. He seemed very surprised, and told me that they have boxes of stuff (including my statement and things I'd emailed them that the ex-boss had written) and that as far as he knew, the Board President had given these things to the Sheriff's Department. I believe that he believes these things were turned over... but to me it's looking like several of the board members (and their damned “consultant”) are trying to cover their asses.

For months now the Board of Directors at the ex-job have been saying that they've been working with local law enforcement, gathering evidence against the ex-boss, that they wanted to make sure everything was airtight before she was charged.... APPARENTLY THIS WAS A LIE!! I am so angry with these moronic, incompetent idiots that I have been in a fury all afternoon. My friend and my replacement at the ex-job and I had been wondering for some time now why no one from the law enforcement agency that was investigating had contacted us... well, turns out this is because no one was investigating!! There is now a detective on the case, but she was only assigned the case THIS MONTH. Okay, so perhaps there was a reason for that, right? Well, she had an appointment this morning with my friend. Come to find out, the detective has been given almost no evidence from the board whatsoever. She had a meeting with them last week and told them essentially that if they didn't give her something to work with, she would have no case. You know how the board said there was a warrant out against the ex-boss for theft of two items? Nope. The detective didn't even have all the info on the missing items needed to file for a warrant! She was only given my name, my friend's name and my replacement's name after the meeting when she said she needed some evidence of wrongdoing. They hadn't even given her my statement, which detailed all sorts of illegal activities at the place, backed up by photos and pay stubs. Plus, one of the main things – the whole personal expenses on the company credit account thing – there was a board member who the ex-boss had insisted said it was ok. Well, at the Board meetings, said member had sworn that she never said any such thing, and that this was the first she'd ever heard about it, yadda, yadda, yadda. Well... she apparently told the detective that she couldn't swear in court that she hadn't told the ex-boss it was ok because she didn't really remember. Yeah. At least the detective did confirm that the ex-boss's daughter is getting punished for “doing community service” at the ex-job while receiving her salary! Anyway, I have my meeting with the detective on Friday. At this point, who knows if anything will come of it. The ex-boss might very well get away with it because the Board is filled with a bunch of inept morons.

Hahahaha. The Spy just called with more news. The ex-boss's daughter is now back on probation. Apparently she had originally had to do 60 hours of community service (all of which she "did" at the ex-job while receiving her salary) - now she has to do something like double that, starting from scratch, and her probation officer will be monitoring where and how well she does her service quite closely this time around!

Okay... I know this isn't what you've been waiting for, but it's just so much more interesting, really! I just got off the phone with The Spy, who told me several very interesting pieces of gossip.

1. The ex-boss really is filing a workman's comp claim against the ex-job for the "injury" which she claims to have obtained the day before she was fired (which, if such an injury really had occurred it would have been her fault for two separate reasons, plus she had let the workman's comp insurance lapse!). Anyway, The Spy learned about this, because when she filed her claim, she listed one person as a witness to her "accident" - her husband! And she also listed both her husband and The Spy as people who could verify that she had indeed been injured. The Board, their lawyer and a workman's comp lawyer had a meeting today to discuss this and other issues, and they asked The Spy to come down and join them. He assumed they'd ask him questions about what (if anything) he had seen, and then ask him to leave... but they allowed him to stay for the whole meeting. Thus the gossip. Anyway, he had not seen her "accident/injury" nor had he witnessed her suffering any kind of pain or discomfort in the 24 hours between the alleged accident and her firing. He told them that he would indeed be willing to testify at a workman's comp hearing if so required.

2. A warrant has been issued against the ex-boss for theft of two items: a small electronic device and a large appliance type thing, together worth over $1000. The sherrif's department and various others are still investigating the whole money thing. They don't want to charge/arrest her until the investigation is complete. Right now, in addition to the personal purchases she made on the company credit card, they've found that she was writing checks to herself, but putting them in the checkbook ledger as checks to places the ex-job owed money! Additionally, they've uncovered something like $25,000 in unpaid bills she left behind.

3. This is my favorite. Up until now, it didn't look like there was anything the ex-boss's daughter could be charged with. Well, last spring she was on probation for assault. Her sentence was however many hours of community service. Apparently, she claimed to have done all her community service at the ex-job! At the same time she was drawing a salary from there! With her mother (they have different last names, or at least they do when the daughter uses her married name) signing off as the superviser who observed her doing the community service! They're turning this information over to the probation people, who hopefully will get her in a hella lot of trouble for this.

Anyway, that's the gossip. I'll have a post up on the EX-boyfriend very soon :-)

The boyfriend was here this weekend. No, I didn’t kick him out. I have to admit, we actually had a good time.

Four years ago I was in a long distance relationship with a guy that I totally fell for… I wonder if I would have viewed him differently if I’d lived with him or if we’d even lived in the same city. As it was, I was only able to see him once a month, usually for a 3 day weekend, and we always had a great time. Having the current boyfriend working out of state and only popping home for a long weekend is quite pleasant. Sadly, I suspect that won’t last. He does intend to come back here for good at some point. Bah.

The boyfriend’s brother lives with their mom, my ex-boss. I’ve always gotten along well with the brother. He’s the sort of guy who is fun to hang out with, but whom one should never, ever date. (He has at least 3 girlfriends that I know about, none of whom know about each other!) Anyway, I only ever hang out with the boyfriend’s brother when the boyfriend is around, so I haven’t seen him since all this drama with their mom started.

This weekend, not only did the boyfriend drive down to see me, but one of his brother’s girlfriends drove in from out of state to see him. This girlfriend knows (but according to her, doesn’t really like) the ex-boss’s daughter, sister to the boyfriend and his brother – you know, the one who keeps telling people she wants to kill my pets and put me in the hospital, among other psychotic things.

Anyway, I had to work late on Saturday (the schools were putting on a weekend event for the kids at the local community college), and as I was leaving (around 9pm) the boyfriend called to ask if it was OK for his brother and brother’s girlfriend to come over for the evening. I said that as long as he wasn’t crazy and talking about killing me like the rest of his relatives, that wouldn’t be a problem.

The first thing the brother said when he saw me was, “It’s good to see you, Anonymity. I’m staying out of that drama between you and my mom though.” I told him I had no drama, it was all in her head… and he said that all he had heard for the past three weeks was her bitching about me, and that he was just sick of hearing it. (Gee, does she obsess much?)

I apologized to the brother and his girlfriend for not having much in the way of food/drinks at the house, but that I hadn’t learned they were coming over until I was on my way home from work. To this, the girlfriend asked, “You were at the Non-Profit this late?” (instead of “non-profit” she actually said the name of my ex-job) I explained where I actually work and what I was doing, and she said, “Well you work at the Non-Profit, too, right?” To which I told her that no, I hadn’t worked there since August. She was really, really surprised by this, and said that all the ex-boss’s daughter had talked about for the past two or three weeks was how *I* had gotten them fired from the Non-Profit so that I could take it over! Apparently the ex-boss’s daughter, and I guess the ex-boss as well, believe that I not only work there, but that I am the new Director!

My response to this was “Wow, they really are crazy.” The girlfriend heartily agreed.

(Additionally, I’d heard the ex-boss and her daughter bitch for months about this particular girlfriend, about what a terrible person she was, and about how their son/brother could do so much better... Meanwhile, I liked her a lot, and felt rather bad that she was so in love with someone who was treating her so very badly.)

Well, my mom and I went to the police station and while it is now on record that we did this, there isn’t much of anything in that record as the cops basically said there was nothing they could do. They said that while they could definitely understand why I was feeling threatened, legally they would need something like one of them either posting a clear and direct threat on my site (i.e. “I am going to kick your ass!”) or posting a clear and direct threat on their site using my name (i.e. “I am going to kick Anon Ymity’s ass!”).

They said that I probably (although not definitely) had enough evidence to get a restraining order against them. They said that if I filed a restraining order and then received the kind of cryptic messages I’d been getting, that would be a violation of the restraining order, and they could be arrested. (Although as I’ve now blocked them on facebook, I’m not sure what other source of threat evidence I would have – or would want to have.)

There are some problems with the whole filing-a-restraining-order thing. For starters, just because I file for one doesn’t mean the judge would grant it. Secondly, I have to have their addresses (so they can be served) in order to file. I have the ex-boss’s address, but not her daughter’s. And I already tried 411 with no results. Without the daughter’s address, I can’t file for a restraining order against her, and I rather suspect that if I got one against the ex-boss but not against the daughter, the daughter would simply drive up here and kick my ass.

Have I mentioned that I am a PACIFIST? I do not believe in violence. This whole situation is somewhat mind-boggling. I haven’t had someone threaten to beat me up since I was in 3rd grade, and I’ve never had anybody try. I suspect being beaten up would be a pretty terrible experience, and I would very much rather not find out just how terrible! NPH!

One of my friends (Jumpers!) whom the ex-boss befriended on facebook in order to do god knows what sent her an absolutely hilarious message that totally put her in her place. I do wish I could quote it here because it was just so amusing. All she had was a really lame reply that she had added him by accident. Apparently that motivated her to come up with a better reason as to why she would add complete strangers who have been warned against her… She has now decided to reply to people who have heard that she got fired and is trying to cause me trouble by telling them that she was just trying to throw me a surprise party, that’s why she was adding them. She also goes on to tell them that she wasn’t fired and that wow, Anonymity must be really paranoid.

Last night I compiled all the facebook screen shots from the ex-boss and her daughter, put them in order and printed out three copies of the complete set… 14 pages in all. On one set I’ve written in my commentary and explanations, whereas the others are in their original form. My mom and I will be taking the set with the commentary and one blank set to the police station this afternoon.

I didn’t tell the boyfriend that I was planning on going to the police, although I did tell him what they had been saying/doing. He says they wouldn’t actually hurt me or my mom or our animals and that they are just being childish and trying to scare/upset me, so I should just ignore them. Which I suppose is true… and if they hadn’t brought my mom and our animals into it, I probably wouldn’t be going to the cops. But when my mom starts feeling like she needs to tote her gun around with her for protection, and I have to keep my outside critters locked indoors (they are begging to go out), I think it’s time that I at least get a legal record started.

Boyfriend has also said a handful of times that he loves his mom but that he knows I did the right thing. That’s a pretty telling statement in and of itself!

Also, I would like to thank all of you who comment here and all of my facebook friends for all your support and advice – I probably wouldn’t be going to the police if it weren’t for all of you encouraging me that it’s the right thing to do.

Meanwhile, for the person who said s/he almost wanted to unsubscribe to this blog because it was too distressing – there is hope! I had initially wanted this blog to be about things like my job, my classes, and other stuff that I really can’t blog about too publicly, but which is still interesting. It’s not that I don’t have other things to blog about, it’s just that this is what is overwhelming both my thoughts and my time at the moment. But believe me, a piece about teaching methods and a class whose subject starts with P is most definitely on its way :-)

My mom and I are in the process of starting our own non-profit. We are, however, moving very slowly and are still doing the legal paperwork. We do have a website for our organization, which specifically states that we are not yet legally a non-profit and that donations, while appreciated, are not tax deductible. Anyway, the ex-boss's recent line of attack is to go after our organization, allegedly referring us to different government agencies because she claims we're breaking the law. We're not in any way, and I find it quite ironic that she is accusing me of breaking the law considering all the things she did.

The ex-boss and her daughter seem to think that they are going to be reinstated at their old job. To me they seem incredibly delusional.

The ex-boss's daughter specifically made a statement on facebook about killing my animals.

Meanwhile, the ex-boss has also started adding all my facebook friends (99% of whom she doesn't know) as her fb friends. I can only assume this is part of some new and insane scheme of hers.

If you know me and are actually interested in details about what’s going on with my ex-job now that the ex-boss is no longer there, email me or send me a message on facebook and I can send you links to articles in local papers and/or links to topics in local discussion forums on this.

Basically, while some of the ex-boss’s friends and acquaintances are still supporting her, most of the community seems pretty thrilled that she is gone. Unfortunately, because my replacement and I both had to follow the ex-boss’s rules when we worked for her, we seem to have been tarred with the same brush, and there have been several comments to the effect that they hope me/replacement have been fired, too, because we were just as bad. Sigh.

The ex-boss herself posted a lengthy piece on a local forum “anonymously” – pretending to be someone with friends who work at the place (although I know her well enough that she gave away her identity to me immediately - not to mention that I looked up her IP address, and yep, totally her), claiming that she (the “friend”) knew how wonderful she (the ex-boss) was (!) and that she (the “friend”) had heard that the board members were committing crimes and that she (the ex-boss) was fired because she (the ex-boss) had confronted them about their crimes, and that the community couldn’t wait for her (the ex-boss) to get her job back! Well, if “the community” is representative of the people who replied to the thread to disagree with her sentiment about herself, well… I guess it’s no surprise that she’s still as delusional as ever.

Someone other than the ex-boss (confirmed as the daughter via IP address lookup) posted something about my replacement on this public forum – something that was partly true (and that was something which my replacement had told the ex-boss in confidence) and partly spurious, defamatory, and racist conjecture… and my replacement is furious. It’s also a little unfortunate, because people who didn’t realize that I had a replacement would probably assume that what was written was about me, and in terms of me, none of it is true whatsoever.

As of this morning, the daughter is writing on facebook about how she and her mother are organizing a campaign with the head non-profit agency of the united states in the same category as the one she was fired from (sorry, that's really vague; couldn't think of a better way of explaining it) to protest their wrongful treatment.

Again: SIGH.

Again: Can I please have a life WITHOUT all this drama?

(Oddly enough, the boyfriend has had no involvement in any of the current drama whatsoever. While if I ever do get rid of him, that will eliminate *his* aspect of the drama in my life, but it won't do anything about everything mentioned above. Again, sigh.)

Now this is just getting ridiculous. Can someone please tell me how other people manage to have drama-free lives, and can that someone then help me get one? Seriously.

So apparently the ex-boss and her daughter are now placing something like 95% of the blame for their job losses on me (somehow the ex-boss had finagled her daughter back onto the payroll, and she has since been fired, too). I find this interesting, considering how there were two other former employees who submitted statements, plus numerous complaints from the community, plus, it turns out that she is under investigation by at least two government agencies – and that’s just what I am aware of! But nonetheless, they’ve decided that it is all – or at least mostly all – my fault. The Spy spend several hours on the phone with the daughter trying to convince her that, as a mother of two children it was a really bad idea for her to drive to our town for the purpose of beating the shit out of me… then when she updated her facebook page to say that she was on her way here, he started calling me every half an hour to make sure I was OK. He wouldn’t tell me specifics of what she told him, only that she was being crazy and irrational and he was worried about my personal safety. (Boy wouldn’t she flip if she knew how instrumental the Spy had been in getting her mom ousted!)

On one hand, I’m not too concerned. My house is pretty secure, I have three dogs, two of which are large and one of which will bite. And I explained the situation to my friendly neighborhood dealers next door, and they’ve promised to keep an eye out for me. On the other hand, I’ve never had anyone threaten me with bodily harm before, and I have to admit, it’s a bit preoccupying. I figure if I see any of them, I’ll just dial 911 immediately and hope that there isn’t too great of a response time! (NPH) So there’s that.

Then there’s the fact that the Board doesn’t seem to wholly competent to be running things either. I mean, this is a non-profit organization, which as you might expect, means it works to support a cause – one that I wholeheartedly support – and I am worried that the Board is just going to continue mucking things up.

Plus, get this:

My replacement and I were both asked by the Board if we would come in and help, whereas my friend was not. This seemed odd, since she is currently unemployed and has tons of free time, while my replacement and I both work and study and as such have very little free time. Since the Board knows *nothing* about the day to day operations of the business and my friend knows *everything* about it, it seems that it would make perfect sense for them to ask her to come in and assist, at least until they get things straightened out. I even suggested this several times to several different Board members, and each time, the response was kind of stumbly-mumbly “oh, the Board has to approve all new hires, and we just haven’t made any decisions like that” – um… they decided to ask me and my replacement to come in, didn’t they? And it’s not like any of us want to be re-hired, we just wanted to help out.

Now: my friend’s husband died a few years ago in a car accident. His family had hated my friend from the minute he introduced her to them, and they just treated her abysmally after his death… including spreading the absurd and completely untrue rumor that she had killed him. The Spy just found out that the lawyer representing the Board is part of that family! So, one can only assume that because of my friend’s dead husband’s family’s pettiness, the business is being “managed” by people who have absolutely no clue what they’re doing, when my friend was willing to volunteer a full 40 hour work week to help them whip that place into shape.

So – can someone PLEASE instruct me on how I can acquire a nice, quiet, drama-free life?