So apparently after all that nonsense last weekend, my ex-boss had a staff meeting where she told everyone that I was never allowed on the property ever again, and that she was changing all the computer passwords so I wouldn’t hack into anything! She also apparently ranted and raved a good bit about how I had “totally fucked things up” (her words, according to two former coworkers) and that the entire last month I was there I did nothing, and it would take her forever to fix the mess that I had caused. Then she made everyone sign a confidentiality agreement (she made us all do this back in March, too), and told them that it meant they couldn’t tell me anything about what goes on there, and it also meant that they couldn’t tell the members of the Board of Directors anything about what goes on there. Um… hello! It’s their job and responsibility (legal and moral) to know what goes on there.
Anyway… after she had fired my replacement, she had promoted one of my friends and former coworkers to my position. (She should have promoted said individual into that position in the first place, but of course, she wouldn’t hear of that; she was going to “hire someone with experience” – and the person SHE selected ended up being a total dingbat. But I digress. Anyway, she and her daughter (who does not work there) were bossing my friend around, and she was doing her best to do everything that she was told, even though a lot of the things she was told didn’t make sense to her or were conflicting. Now, my friend is a lot less tolerant than I am, and instead of just working in silence, she confronted the ex-boss about the conflicting demands – and got fired. (The story is actually a lot longer and more convoluted than that, but trust me, you don’t want to hear it. And I don’t want to type it.)
In the interim, my boyfriend, the ex-boss’s son, chewed her out for the way she had treated me. He also told her to never speak to me again. And she seems to be doing as he asked, and he totally earned himself some points in my book for that. Also, he’s been doing really well about not drinking and admitting that he was an alcoholic, so I don’t know. Things in that area are looking up. But this is totally off topic.
Since the ex-boss can’t direct any of her anger at me any more, she is directing all of it at my friend! I can’t write how, since that would totally give away the identity of this blog, but suffice it to say, that my friend is now receiving tons of angry, screamy text messages. As a result, we decided to forward all our texts to email and create a nice word document which shows in the ex-boss’s own words what has been going on… and we then emailed those documents to the vice president of the board of directors. Hah. Take that!
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Wait, correct me if I understood this wrong, but didn't said friend get fired? And isn't your ex-boss also now your friend's ex-boss? And in that case why is she sending angry, screamy text messages to someone who no longer has anything to do with her? I suppose the answer to that could be as simple as "because she's a psycho," but I mean I find that to be REALLY psycho and almost more plausible that I'm misunderstanding the situation... Ruv, your ronery friend
Hi ronery friend :)
Nope, you totally understand the situation correctly - she is now the friend's ex-boss and is nonetheless sending screamy texts which have since escalated into threatening (as in saying things like, "You don't want this to get ugly") - anyway, friend and I have shown all our text messages to the board of directors, who seem to be considering firing her. Finally! Also, the vice president of the board asked me if I would be willing to come back and work part time if the ex-boss were fired.
Well that's good news that tbe BOD is taking it seriously. Maybe they will give you her job! Sounds like a real psycho so watch your back!
And I am glad that the BF told the ex-boss, his mom, to leave you alone and she is complying. But as for him earning points and things in that area looking up - does it really matter if he earns points if you don't love him and when he drinks don't even like him? The problem with an alcoholic is not that they drink, but who they become when they do, and that they can't stop and their promises mean othing, and they are not dependable, and all of their promises and words mean nothing because the alcohol ALWAYS wins! THey don't want it to, but it does. Because that's the disease. Just like a diabetic could promise you that they will control their sugar levels and then be completely helpless to do so.
Wow, that is really great news that the board at least seems to be made of sane people. Props to you and your friend, and to the board!
~ronery
Anonymous - ugh, I know. Things have, for the most part, been really good between us recently, although I know it won't last. Also, this is the last time I ever live with anyone... because it's so much trouble trying to get them the hell out!
Ronery - The board is made of sane people, although I'm not entirely sure how competent they are. I'm pretty sure most of them got on the board (they got a new BOD in March) so they could tell people they were on the board, not so they could do much. They've received plenty of information from employees and complaints from the public over the past 6 months, that you'd think they would've done something by now. There have been several times we've all thought "This is it, they'll have to fire her now" and then they don't... so I don't know. I would like to think something will happen now, but I'll believe it when I see it!
I also hope everything goes well with the board.
The whole non-disclosure agreement thing bugs me. I don't know anything about the law, but I can't imagine a NDA covers illegal activity. It also seems that an organization which operates almost entirely on public funds should go out of its way to be transparent. Pollyanish thought, I know.
Legally, it doesn't cover keeping one's mouth shut about illegal activity (whistle-blowers are protected!) although she likes to tell people that it covers EVERYTHING, and tells people that saying anything to anyone can result in arrest. Plus, the people who still work there really can't afford to lose their jobs, so either way, they wouldn't say anything. Another creepy thing, the director tried to tell us that signing the NDA also meant that we were not allowed to talk to the board! What BS.
Sounds like one of the previous comment-ers (sp?) has been involved with an alcoholic. I have too, and looking back on it, it was the single worst experience in my entire life. He couldn't hold a job, got arrested twice, and had depend on me for money (I was a sophomore in college, for chrissakes, and he was 45)! He made my friends and family uncomfortable, so they left me--I was asked not to visit some friends' apartments and my parents told me I was disowned. When I was finally able to get rid of him (the county sheriff's department helped with that), he left owing me over $2,000 I'll never see again, not to mention the years of my life it took me to get over all the mental, emotional, and sexual abuse. I was only with him for about 6 months, but it was hell, and I thought I was stuck there.
I'm glad for you that things seem to be ok now, but please be careful. Please don't hesitate to reach out for help--either to friends, acquaintances, or the authorities. Whatever you need to do to stay (and feel) safe.
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